Stick With Me

My roommate is an excellent athlete. She’s a crossfitter and a runner – a great runner. Since she’s moved in, we’ve gone running several times together. Even on my best day, when I’m in good shape, hydrated, and ready to run, she is significantly faster than me. But, when we go running together, she runs as a pace more comfortable for me. On our runs, she pushes me to run a slightly faster pace than I would on my own, but not too fast that I’m unable to finish. When I want to give up, she slows the pace slightly, enough for me to catch my breath, and then we pick it up again. She refuses to leave me behind, even if I want her to.

August was a difficult month. I returned back from a great vacation with best friends to some changes at work and health issues in my family. I went from the top of the mountain to the valley in a matter of days; things were moving so fast that my neck experienced whiplash. I didn’t have time to process through any of what was happening or how I felt. I just had to keep moving.

In order to keep moving, I took steps away from God. Hiding behind excuses of busyness and exhaustion, I did not open my Bible much. When I did take time to pray, it was a quick moment of exhaling in the midst of completing other tasks. It all felt so heavy, and my strength was wearing thin. I willed myself to just keep moving, not stopping because I was afraid that if I stopped, even for a minute, I wouldn’t be able to start again. But I wasn’t really moving in any direction.

Even when I slowed my pace, God did not allow me to distance myself from Him. It was as if He was saying, “Come on, Caitlin, just walk a little closer, pick up your pace ever so slightly. I wouldn’t leave you behind.” My overwhelmed heart and I did our best to keep up, listening to the promises that we would never be left or forsaken.

At about mile two of running with my roommate, I usually want to send her off ahead of me. The effort it takes to stay at the pace that we’ve set feels overwhelming and I want to slow down into a more comfortable motion for me. Plus, I don’t want to slow her down. But she doesn’t let me. She slows with me, and allows me to catch my breath. She’s determined not to leave me behind, no matter how hard I try to push her to do exactly that.

As everything around me has felt out of sync, God has been the ultimate running partner. When my weary heart has tried to quit, slow down or go off in the wrong direction, He pulls me back. When the pace is unknown or just plain uncomfortable, He has drawn me closer to himself.

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Monday Lovin’: Fall Fashion

 

September is here with it’s cooler temperatures and breeze in the air. I’m a summer lover, so this transition can be difficult for me. To make it a little bit easier, I try to focus on the fun stuff that fall has to offer: the ability to run in the middle of the afternoon without worrying about humidity, not looking like a crazy person when I order a hot latte at Starbucks, eating yummy soups, laying on the couch watching football and the focus of today’s blog – new clothing options. Some of my favorite fall staples are already hanging in my closet, others are sitting in my online shopping carts (the dream cart) waiting for a sale or next paycheck.

  1.  J.Crew Field Jacket: Confession time, I have the J.Crew Field Jacket in two colors and I want the third. It’s the perfect fall piece, but also transitions well into winter and back into spring. It’s a casual alternative to a blazer and a dressier version of a windbreaker. Hint: the Mossy Brown looks more like army green and goes with EVERYTHING.
  2. Flannel Shirts: Versatility is important to me. Before making a purchase, I want to make sure that the item can be worn in different settings – work, church and fun. Flannels can usually do just that. Layer them under a blazer with pearls and it’s business casual. Pair them with holey jeans and a puffer vest for a casual weekend look. Looking for a Sunday football outfit? Look no further than leggings, a flannel and riding boots; you’ll look like you made an effort, but you’ll feel like you’re in pajamas – trust me. Buffalo check flannels are fun, but my personal favorite of the season this far is this bold guy that’s already hanging in my closet.
  1. Special Occasion Dress: Even though my body does well in an a-line or fit and flare dress, I am increasingly eager to step outside my comfort zone with looser fitting dresses or a shift dress. I have enough basics in my closet, so I’m drawn to bright, bold and sometimes unlikely options. You usually can’t go wrong with Anthropologie dresses; this one is a great pattern, fun fall colors and an easy fit. While you’re over at the Anthropologie website, their sale dresses are beautiful to look at, and usually at a more affordable price point. If you’re looking for a shift dress option, this J.Crew sleeveless lace shift dress is a great investment piece. It can be worn year round and dressed up or down. I personally love the bright ocean color, but all three colors are rich and would pair well with a field jacket and riding boots. It’s a perfect dress to attend a fall wedding, and the Navy/Black color could serve double duty for the holiday season.
  1. Casual Dress: I can usually count on Old Navy for a basic fall dress each year. The dresses don’t necessarily last more than a year – the fabric doesn’t hold up, the color fades or the shape changes, but for the price, that’s usually okay for me. Old Navy’s fit and flare dresses aren’t all made equal, but this year, I found a great fit for me. The black one is my favorite, I can’t wait for all the ways I can wear it this fall and winter. Hint: wait for an Old Navy dress sale.
  2. Boots: My roommate is a big fan of booties. My legs don’t do well in them. So I wouldn’t give specific recommendations for boots, but Nordstrom and DSW both have excellent options, and I’m confident there’s something for everyone. Don’t do what I’ve done in years past and wait until December to buy boots – the good sizes will be gone, and you’ll be disappointed. Even if it feels early in the season for boots, now is the time to shop.

I’d love to hear what you’re loving this fall! What’s at the top of your list of things to buy?

Monday Lovin’

July was a full month. Full of the beautiful and rich, but also full of the scary and uncertain. It has been a hard summer to get into a routine, which is why the writing has been so inconsistent. So I’m choosing to show up today, on Monday with an update about what I’m lovin’.

  1. TJ Maxxx: I LOVE to shop! I can spend money almost anywhere. But more than buying new things, I love the shopping experience. I enjoy walking around, seeing what options exist and trying on fun things. Plus, the prices are even better!
  1. Friends: Lots and lots of Friends. When life is heavy, I need some light television to unwind. Friends has been a perfect way to occupy my mind. Note for the wise: Friends is hard television show to watch while working out – it’s double duty on your abs.
  1. Sweet potatoes: My roommate introduced me to sweet potatoes. Cut into bite sized pieces, add olive oil, salt and pepper and cook at 400 for at least 20 minutes/until they’re soft. They’re filling, cheap and a great addition to any meal. I’m always looking for new food staples.
  1. Reading: All the books. I want them. Half Priced Books and Amazon have been favorites this summer as I’ve tried to fill myself up with good stuff. I’ll put out a list of my favorite books of the summer later this month, since the summer isn’t really over yet, even though all the kids are headed back to school.

I’m hoping to write more this month, so hopefully I’ll be back on Thursday with some thoughts.

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Monday Lovin’

It is July 13th and I’m posting my first blog post of the month, which breaks my heart. I love to write. I like the pounding of my fingers on the keyboard, and the discplines it cultivates in me to write consistently. When I unintentionally take a hiatus from writing, I start to believe the lie that I since I haven’t been writing consistently, I should not try to start again now. When I hear friends repeat this same lie to me about working out, I chuckle because we all know it’s not true, while it’s hard to start, and even harder to start again, if it’s something that is important to you and helps you be more you, you should always start again. Always. So I’m back today, with Monday Lovin’, nothing terribly exciting, but just like running, you have to put one foot in front of the other and start moving.

1. My clean eating roommates are wearing off on me. I have been grocery shopping weekly, meal planning and absolutely loving the way that real food makes me feel. meal planning also makes eating throughout the week more fun. The temptation to eat out decreases when I am looking forward to my packed lunch in the fridge!

2. I hit the jackpot at Target’s clearance section over the weekend. Two bathing suit separates for $6.86 each. I haven’t bought a full priced swimsuit all year, and probably wouldn’t. It helps that I love to mix and match, and sometimes don’t even care if the bottom and top completely match. I love finding great deals, especially on fun things right before vacation.

3. I can’t stop reading lately. Saturday, my roommates were away and read almost all day long. I’ve read some good books, and some ones that are harder to get through. Currently on my bed side table: The Me You Want To Be (John Ortberg), Savor (Shauna Niequist) and No Man Is An Island (Thomas Merton) — I recommend all three! They all address some similar themes, which makes it fun to read at the same time.

The more perfectly we are ourselves the more we are able to contribute to the good of the Whole Church of God.

-Thomas Merton

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4. I spent the 4th of July in Chicago. Fun fact about Caitlin: I’ve only ever spent the 4th in two places: Bethany Beach, DE and Chicago, IL. For real. Last weekend we had so much fun renting bikes and doing our own bike tour, eating good food, visiting Binny’s, going to the beach, and watching the fireworks from a speed boat off of Navy Pier. I left the city with a full heart; thankful for yet another weekend of making memories with sweet friends.

5. It’s easy to make fun of people who use selfie sticks to take photographs of themselves. Until you use one yourself. My selfie stick allowed us to document every stop on our Chicago adventure last weekend. It also reminds me not to take life too seriously!

I’ll hopefully back on Thursday with reflections of my mini-capsule wardrobe experience. I hope you have an excellent week!

Wednesday’s Words

When the words don’t come easily to me, I dive deep into the words of others. I’m six books into my summer challenge of reading ten books this summer, and I haven’t even gone on vacation yet. Here’s what I’m loving right now:

  • Soul Keeping, by John Ortberg. Yes, just, yes. We must remove hurry from our lives in order to bring life to our souls. For so long I’ve viewed the soul as a spiritual thing, not overtly biblical. Ortberg reminds me that loving the Lord with my whole soul is the part of the Greatest Commandment. My roommate is already calling this a “must read,” after borrowing it off my shelf.
  • The Finishers, by Roger Hershey and … This book was given to me two years ago when I graduated from college. Many friends received it too, but when I’ve asked them if they’ve read it, they hadn’t picked it up either. Truly, one of my favorite reads this year. It has forced me to wrestle with calling and mission in a challenging yet affirming way.
  • The Next Culture War, by David Brooks. While he admits to being to the left of social conservatives on all issues, he does a great job validating the need for social conservatives in today’s culture to provide stability and definition. Today’s society is radically different from sixty years ago, and instead of fighting to take culture back there, we, as social conservatives, many of whom call ourselves Christians, must find a better way to engage and serve our communities. Public shaming and loud debate is less productive that building relationships on a local level, and providing our Biblical opinions where appropriate. I would challenge Brooks though, because this is already happening, it is just overshadowed by social media commentary.
  • Famous, by Sarah Bessey. Oh boy, this was a great one! Sarah Bessey may be in my top five favorite authors. Her book, her blog, her Facebook statuses and Instagram posts. I love her writing. This piece addressed several conversations I have had with friends in the past few months about fame and ambition. She says, “the line between “making Jesus famous” and “making ourselves famous for Jesus” is whisper thin.” It is indeed. The word fame can easily be substituted for successful, respected, and known. This blog reminds of the glory in the ordinary,and in the midst of office days, cleaning my apartment and meal prep, I need to be reminded of that. God isn’t impressed by fame, He is honored by obedience.

I’d love to hear what you’ve been reading!

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Monday Lovin’

This weekend kicked off a full month of fun, with only one weekend that will be spent in Indianapolis. Which is good, but I am slightly tired just thinking about it. A friend and I drove to Cincinnati on Friday to see Beth Moore speak live. We also spent time with my family and had great conversations in the car.

  1. Beth Moore was phenomenal! I cannot speak highly enough of the chance to see her live. The love Jesus demonstrates towards us is scandalous. From the very beginning. This past week in discipleship, we discussed the birth of Christ and how the Angel Gabriel appeared to Mary. A woman pregnant out of wedlock. Scandal. Beth said this weekend, “We’re often too well behaved for our Bibles.” God’s story is powerful, full of adventure and drama, only the good kind of course. He doesn’t demand good behavior out of me, He demands faith, which is harder, and may be less defined. May I be brave enough to follow God in faith, wherever that may lead.
  2. My mom is doing a switcheroo of rooms at their house. Which means that my old bedroom furniture is being sold. When I was at home this weekend, I went through a lot of mementos that she had pulled of drawers in order to decide what to keep and what could go. I relived high school memories with a college and post-grad best friend. Favorites: my bright pink stilettos worn to senior homecoming, a water gun from junior year of college and key chains from several Asian vacation destinations collected while we lived overseas. I am thankful for such special memories.
  3. I love Myers-Briggs. The host of a podcast that I’ve started listening to is obsessed with Myers-Briggs, too, which has encouraged me to retest myself. This long-time ENFJ is actually an ENFP. It has been enlightening to realize that the way I process information can be draining. ENFPs are often the wide-view lens and able to make connections across many different things, but they also can’t turn their brains off. I highly recommend the test at 16 Personality Types.

This evening has been full of Matt Kearney music, book reading, tea drinking and couch laying. So good. It’s the ordinary moments that cultivate such deep gratitude in my heart. 

Monday Lovin’

Happy Monday! It’s been a rainy, cloudy week in Indianapolis. Which means this weekend was full of rest, Blacklist watching and book reading. I even took a nap on Saturday – I cannot remember the last time that happened! One more week before my favorite holiday, and only a four-day work week. It is a good discipline to share a few of my favorite things with you each Monday.

1) Trader Joe’s may be my new favorite place to shop. That is saying a lot for a clothing addict. There are not too many choices that I feel overwhelmed, but enough choices that it makes meal-planning fun. I am confident making healthy decisions at Trader Joe’s, even if I buy fun snacks (Cowboy Bark), too. Also, meal planning makes cooking fun – who knew?

2) Nothing makes me feel more grown up than furniture shopping. Two years ago, when I moved into my first apartment in Indianapolis, there was decorative table that I wanted, but it wasn’t in my (very small) budget. It is still a splurge, but 30% off at Target, and a slightly larger budget made it possible. In September, I’m moving in a new place, so I’m slowly but surely building a collection of furniture so that where I live feels like home.

3) Binge watching Blacklist with my roommates is a current hobby of mine. Each episode I say, “Oh my gosh,” “What the heck,” and “I can’t even,” at least twice, but we keep going. We are a little bit addicted, and that may be the understatement of the summer.

4) Friday after work, I had an ice cream date and Target adventure with old, but best friend. We recalled the goodness of God and talked through what we hope the future holds. There is comfort in a friend who has seen the good, bad and ugly. If you live in Indianapolis, and haven’t tried Handles Ice Cream, what are you waiting on?

I will be back on Wednesday sharing my favorite reads lately. Here’s to hoping for a good week!

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Security

About two months ago, I received a promotion at work. The role was something I had already started to do part-time, but now it was to become my full-time title. As is normal when working at a small business or organization, roles take their shape over time. Yes, I now had a new job description, but I knew, to some degree, that this new position would evolve as we hired a new person and our organization’s needs changed. I signed my new job description, and wrote one for our new hire as we posted the job and took steps forward.

I never really thought about what I was giving up, just that I was gaining new responsibilities.

A couple weeks ago, our new-hire started. We have been flushing out responsibilities so that all of us are operating out of strengths; working in areas we enjoy, when it’s possible.

As we have transitioned, my boss graciously asked me to make a list of what responsibilities I wanted to keep. I was so tempted to keep all the responsibilities, regardless of if I enjoy them or if it’s in the best interest of the organization.

It is so easy for me to say, “Give me all the tasks,” for several reasons:

  1. I know how to do them.
  2. I am afraid that someone can do them better than me.
  3. The organization may realize that I’m not valuable.

Giving up aspects of my job have brought out insecurities. Insecurities are ugly. Insecurity makes me defensive. Insecurity is rooted in fear.

Instead of rushing through the list right before the end of the day, I set aside time, at home, to think through my strengths, what I enjoy and where I want to grow. I work at an organization committed to my growth. I work at an organization that wants to use my strengths. I work at an organization that wants me to take on new responsibilities, which is why I was promoted. Even more than what my boss and organization believe about me and want for me, I have nothing to prove in the eyes of the Lord. I’ve been given every spiritual blessing and believe with confidence that God is working all things for my good, because He’s madly in love with me.

Because of these things, I can operate out of security, not insecurity. Instead of allowing fear to motivate my decisions, I can allow faith to be the determining factor.

As I transition into a new role and train someone else as our Administrative Assistant, that does not mean I cannot do my previous responsibilities well. I was a good Administrative Assistant, but that does not mean that someone new will not also be good. There is no scarcity in the Kingdom; me being good at something does not mean that someone else cannot also be good. God does not operate based on human limitations.

With any new position, even in the same business, there are growing pains, but with them come opportunities for growth. I have to be secure to believe these truths. As I default back to operating out of insecurity, competition takes root, and my defenses go up. I must train my mind and my heart to operated out of security — in my own skills, in how my boss views me, and most importantly, security in Christ.

As responsibilities are reassigned, we may see that our new hire is better than I was at completing some tasks, that means that we did a great job hiring, training and empowering someone new. We also hope that in a new role, we’ll be able to develop and utilize some strengths of mine that were previously unknown or underutilized. But, I will only be able to explore that through a place of security.

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Monday Lovin’

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It’s Monday again! Instead of sharing what I currently love, I’m sharing my summer bucket list/goals.

  1. Read 10 books. I can’t seem to get enough of reading lately. It’s been a blast to learn new things and enjoy diving into other people’s stories. I want to spend my summer continuing to do exactly that. I long to be a witness of other people’s stories, and one of the best ways for me to do that is by reading. Want to step outside your current reality and stretch what you know to be true? Pick up a new book. Reading – both fiction and nonfiction – enables my imagination, leading me to dream in new ways.
  1. Run 100 miles. In full disclosure, this one might be a bit of a challenge. It’s June 15th and I’ve only run 8 miles, so if I want to actually achieve this, I’m going to have to step up my running game to get some miles in. This may mean that I am going to have to wake up at the fine hour of 6 am to run outside or log some miles on the treadmill. However, I am the happiest, healthiest version of me when I’m running consistently, it’s almost like a spiritual discipline for me.
  1. Finishing reading through the book of Psalms. I like to read my way through books of the Bible. It’s one of the best ways I remind consistent in spending time with the Lord. However, being very feelings based, it’s hard to motivate myself to spend time in the Word when I’m not “feelin’ it.” But, if I want to grow in the ways that God want to lead me, I have to put the time in, not out of obligation, but out of delight. Thus, this summer bucket list item. May the summer of 2015 be defined in my own life as a summer that I learned more about God’s character and heart; may it be a summer of refinement and growth.
  1. Pay off my student loan debt. This item has been a long time coming. Eighteen months in the making. I’m almost there. And you may find it strange that it found its way onto this fun list. But, it IS fun to accomplish goals! At least for me. Goals are good, they motivate us to look beyond the present (new pairs of jeans, a second drink out to eat at dinner, spontaneous road trips, etc.) to the future. My desire to pay off my student loan debt has motivated so many of my decisions in the past two years, so I am excited to see the finish line. Now, I must stay disciplined so I run towards the finish line, without slowing down. This challenge also goes deeper than simply paying money to something, but for me it has been heart issue. What do I really value? How do I really view my money? Am I a good steward of what has been given to me?

I would love to hear some of your summer bucket list items. Is there anything you are so excited for this summer?

This post was inspired by a recent favorite of mine — the podcast Sorta Awesome. If you’re a podcast listener, or looking for something to pass time on your commute to and from work, it’s a great listen. The women talk about real things that matter, and it’s been so fun to listen!

Receiving the Gift

IMG_3445Two weeks ago, I traveled to southern Tennessee to watch my sister graduate from college. Emilee graduated Summa Cum Laude from Lee University with a degree in Theology. Lee University is a small liberal arts Christian university. She loved the library and went to bed early. Her professors knew not just her name, but her boyfriend’s name and what was going on in their lives. Her graduating class was 470 people, which included the graduate students. They were gifted with Bibles, with their names embossed on the front, as a graduation present.

I did not graduate Summa Cum Laude or Magna Cum Laude or with any honors. Never figuring out quite what I wanted to study, I picked the easiest thing I think of and stuck with it – sociology. Indiana University is a large state school. If my professors knew my name, it was because they really liked me, but they probably couldn’t tell you much else about me. I planned weekly Cru meetings for 400+ people. Indiana University didn’t give me a tangible gift for attending the university, although I do count myself lucky to have attended.

Her college experience and my college experience were radically different.

True life: when things are different from one another, I am tempted to assign greater value to one. I catch myself doing this not just with college experiences, but other things as well.

Getting married earlier in life versus spending some time in your 20’s single.

Buying houses versus renting apartments.

Staying put versus moving to a new city.

Serving in vocational ministry versus working in the marketplace.

Reading nonfiction books to learn versus delighting in simplistic novels.

The list could go on and on and on and on.

And yet, in all of these situations, neither is better or worse than the other.

We can get ourselves in trouble when we think obedience looks the same to everyone as it does to us. We also place limitations on God when we expect that He will move in other people’s lives in the same places or the same ways that He has in ours.

I found and fell in love with Jesus at a party school. Not everyone has the same experience. I have to be careful with blanket statements about faith and public universities. What I experienced was not law. It was an example of God’s grace in my life.

I have watched my faith blossom as I wrestle through big life decisions as a single young adult. But, in no way does that take away from the gift of marriage in the lives of other young friends.

We cannot live the same life multiple ways. Who knows what my life would look like if I attended a liberal arts Christian college in the South. Would I have experienced God in the same ways as I did at IU? It simply does not matter. We will never know. And we don’t need to know. When we give into the Holy Spirit’s guidance and submit to God’s will, He shapes us through it. His leading leads us where we need to go.

God gives good gifts. They are given at the right time, with the full picture in view. No one else can see the full picture. Yes, others can give advice about what schools to attend, should you marry so-and-so, and if renting for another year is the best use of your money, but only God sees the full picture. He leads us in light of eternity.

As I get discouraged or start dreaming of a road not traveled, it is easy to idealize where I was not led and experiences I have not had. All I can do is receive what God has given to me with open-hands.

Receive the perfect gifts knowing they’ve been purposed by God for me, in light of where He is leading me.

Receive and give thanks.